Managing employees is exhausting.
You need to be promoting and improving your product or service, but employee drama consumes huge chunks of your time and energy.
As an entrepreneur, you thought you did the hard part by launching your business. Now you realize that the skillset that helped you create your business is not the same as the one you need to run it.
Why are people so childish and difficult?
Toxic employees and interpersonal conflict plague all businesses.
But what makes matters worse is when leaders are so uncomfortable dealing with the problem that they avoid it altogether.
I love conflict because I see it as an opportunity for people to learn, grow and get their needs met. Or… realize they are in the wrong place, and leave.
Every business needs a therapist.
Organizational management requires the soft skills: emotional intelligence, resilience, and interpersonal skills. In order to succeed, you can either learn these skills, hire someone to support you in the areas of your business that require them, or both.
That’s where I come in. I support entrepreneurs and small business owners, especially those without HR departments, with the aspects of their businesses that keep them up at night, drain their energy, suck their time, and pull them away from their core focus.
Every leader needs an ally.
When I work with entrepreneurs, my only agenda is to listen well, help you accurately assess the root of the problem, present alternative perspectives, and tell you the truth—even when it’s hard to hear.
It’s lonely at the top and having someone you can trust to be a sounding board and to take some of the most onerous tasks off of your plate frees you up to be the strategic leader and inspiring visionary your business needs.
Resilience reduces conflict, improves relationships and boosts productivity.
The Warrior CEO
You care more than anyone else. You live and breathe this company. It keeps you up at night. Failure is not an option. There are threats around every corner. You are always on high alert. Every day is a battle; but you are a warrior, and you will fight to the death to make this company a success.
The problem is…
You don’t have time to sugar-coat things. You expect people to get their jobs done – on time and on point. When they don’t, you hold them accountable. But people are so sensitive. They get offended when you aren’t nice enough. It’s ridiculous. How is anyone supposed to run a company when they have to worry about hurting people’s feelings all the time? And the sense of entitlement… and lack of commitment… and demand for work/life balance… when you are burning your candle at both ends to make payroll for them. It’s infuriating.
The real problem is…
You are angry. Why shouldn’t you be? You never feel safe. Being hyper-vigilant is exhausting. Caring more than anyone else is maddening. And it’s lonely. And… if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll realize you have never really felt safe. You have always been a warrior. Protecting others. Battling demons… not just in your professional life but in your personal life as well.
Being a dragon slayer got you to the top of the corporate ladder.
It is also keeping you alienated and anxious. It doesn’t have to be this way. It is possible to construct a new mindset that will allow you to relax, enjoy your life, and improve your relationships – without losing your edge. It is possible. It is not easy, though. This is not your typical CEO coaching, and it’s not for the faint of heart.
I only work with CEOs who have gotten to the point where they are highly motivated to change. Instead of needing others to change, which isn’t working anyway, they are finally ready to change the aspects of themselves that are holding them back. True courage is demonstrated by those who are willing to look within and take responsibility for how they are showing up in the world; how they match the dynamics at play in their lives; and how they can affect lasting, positive change in themselves.
Applying resilience training to organizational management
gives leaders and their employees a set of skills that will
improve their relationships and serve them for the rest of their lives.
Organizational Management that Builds Resilience
These skills of my model improve all relationships – personal and professional.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE SKILLS
…help you regulate your emotions and take care of yourself in highly stressful situations.
INTERPERSONAL SKILLS
…help you communicate effectively and build supportive relationships.
MIND-BODY SKILLS
…help you repair the physical effects of stress and access your Inner Wisdom when making decisions.
Self-awareness helps you take responsibility for your side of your relationships.
Playing to your STRENGTHS, owning and mitigating your weaknesses, welcoming feedback, and exploring your blindspots allow you to be agile and perform well under stress.
Making your NEEDS a priority and finding a way to balance them with those of your business (and personal) partners… as well as those of the employees you lead… creates a culture that brings out the best in everyone.
Living in alignment with your VALUES and making sure the corporate culture aligns as well is a critical component of high-performing companies with loyal, engaged employees.
Making sure the BELIEFS you bring to your leadership role serve you, your employees, and the company as a whole is a fundamental element of success.